Monday, February 16, 2015

Fifty shades of . . . can't we all get along?

So . . . there's this book trilogy that has since spawned a movie (and more likely movie franchise). I'm sure you've probably heard of it. And if your Facebook timeline or twitter feed is anything like mine it's blown up with opinions on both sides of the fence. I have friends staunchly for the books, and friends staunchly against. So many opinions are circling, and I thought it only fitting to add my own. One thing I want more than anything else is for everyone to stop with the belittling. To stop with the hatred, I'm so exhausted of scrolling through my timeline and seeing friends hating on each other.

Now before I start, I just want to say I've seen fans of the books belittling those who aren't fans as prudes and idiots. I've seen people who aren't fans call fans mindless idiots. BOTH of these groups are wrong. It is fine and well and dandy to love Fifty Shades. It is also fine and well and dandy not to. Regardless of how big a cultural phenomenon 50 is (and love it or hate it, it is that), it should not be enough to bust apart friendships. How about we all agree to disagree. How about, love it or hate it, everyone is allowed to voice their opinions without being attacked by everyone else? How about it you love it, and you see a post talking about how it's abusive and they have some good points, you either ignore it or read, see if you find anything you can agree with, and then move on? How about if you hate it, and you see a post raving about how much they loved the movie, you could either ignore it or read, see if you find anything you can agree with, and then move on? See how it works? ;)

For my specific opinion on the movie and books . . . well maybe that's a post for another day when everyone is a bit calmer and I won't get abuse from the other side when I mention it, but it should be clear to anyone who knows me.

4 comments:

  1. haha it did actually bust apart a friendship, but I know it obviously wasn't a friendship that was meant to be!

    Agree wholeheartedly though... haters gonna hate, lovers gonna love, just go and do it in your corner and be happy!

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    1. Exactly. I know I said I wasn't going to state my opinion, but you know me so you know it. The way I see it though, I love Twilight. I still do. Do I think Edward is creepy and borderline abusive? Yep. Do I see the critics reasons for not liking it? Absolutely. Do I feel the need to make myself feel better for liking it by trying to make them feel bad? Hell no. I can read every well-reasoned argument about why they don't like it, accept their opinion and move on.

      And yeah, like you said some friendships probably weren't meant to be anyway, but I'm just seeing more and more rage over this and even though I'm not a fan (for many and varied reasons), I don't think less of those friends of mine who are--providing they don't try to devalue my opinion or try belittle me for not agreeing with them.

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  2. Everyone is allowed an opinion. If we all thought the same way, life would be extremely boring. As far as the books go, you know my opinion. From what I've seen of the movie thus far, my opinion will most likely remain unchanged.
    The only thing that truly cracks me up is the people that were speaking ill of her after she denied the Twilight fandom. A majority of them are now kissing James's ass. It's a ridiculous sight to behold.

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    1. Sadly I think there are some people who are willing to do anything for the chance of possibly getting some time in the reflected limelight.

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